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Roy Peter Link and love - in an interview he tells more
Since "There's Friendship - The Young Physicians", we're raving about Roy Peter Link, whether he has a girlfriend and how shy he really is - here he tells more
Granted: Above all, because of Roy Peter Link we like "In all friendship - The young doctors" particularly well (Thursdays at 18.50 clock in the first). The actor is charming, competent and confident in the ARD evening series as Dr. med. Niklas Ahrend. Roy Peter Link is actually shy. Whether this also applies to love, he tells in an interview.
They are considered a sports gun among the actors and like to go to their limits ...
I like to move, do a lot of fitness. Already as a child I liked to climb trees and do that sometimes even today. And in sports, I love the challenge, I like to overcome my deadlock. If the head says he does not want anymore, then I just keep going anyway. I find that fun!
Have you always been so ambitious?
No! At some point I came to the point where I was tired of the suffering.
What a suffering?
I was incredibly shy as a child. I had stomach ache weeks before a school lecture, always got a bright red head when I had to speak in front of the class. At some point I had no appetite for these fears. I thought something must exist against these negative feelings. I read many clever books, but none of them helped me with my timidity. At some point I started looking for the problem myself and asked myself, "Hey, what's wrong with you?" I just said, "Just do it!" I was tired of the suffering, I did not want it anymore the shy one who is constantly getting ready in his head.
Who does this shyness come from?
I can only guess that. My mother was 16 when she gave birth to me. I never met my father. I think there's a lot in this biography peculiarity. When I was seven, my mother moved with me from the city of Cologne to the village. At that time she said to me: "Go and find a connection in the village youth!" She sent me to football, but without sensible football clothes. I had water sandals on! I still have the murderous laughter of the other children in my ears today. Children can be cruel. I ran home crying. Maybe a very formative experience in my youth?
When did you know that things could not go on like this?
That was not so long ago. That was in 2010. I was crying in bed at night and tired of the suffering. I asked myself, "Why am I so shy and plagued by self-doubt?" I then decided to just get up and not be so distracted by my skeptical head.
How did that work?
It is already a huge piece on, if one becomes aware that the own brain constantly annotates, compares and evaluates. You have to get rid of that and fortunately I succeeded. Today I have no more self-doubt and am happy with what I have. With sport, I defeated my serious self-doubt: I learned, over and over again the point at which the head says "no". I was fine!
Are you a fighter?
No never! Fighting is the worst thing you can do. We fight against hunger. What has happened since then? The situation has worsened. We fight against diseases and there are always new ones.
But you've had to punch through the bottom of your acting career, have even spent the night in the car and showered in the train station!
But that was not a fight for me then. I just wanted to be an actor, but had no idea how to do that. In some series credits, I read the address of an RTL production facility in Cologne-Ossendorf. I thought in my naivete at that time: If you want to be an actor, it's best to go there where it's produced. Although I had no money and no residence, but drove to Cologne. That led me to sleep in the car and shower in the train station. But I did not experience that as dramatic at the time, but simply as a logical consequence. Although I was very shy, I never doubted my acting career. Interestingly, I had a great deal of optimism and confidence. Of course that was the reason why one day it worked out. But a fight or a through boxing was not for me.
Photo: ARD / Tom Schulze
You have a very close relationship with your mother. Does that have something to do with being raised by her alone?
It's easy to imagine that a girl who got pregnant at a Catholic girls' school at the age of sixteen by a 21-year-old Jew and was then kicked out by her parents can not be the mother, as described in the picture book. But she has tried as far as she can to give me a good life. I like my mother about everything and she likes me too.
Did you never want to meet your father?
That was never really an issue. As far as my father is concerned, I am completely unencumbered. I do not have to meet my father. If you have never eaten a strawberry, you do not know how it tastes and you do not miss it in life.
If he contacted you tomorrow because he spotted them on TV, how would you react?
Well, then we would probably go for a drink.
Just recently, a Berliner Zeitung reported that you are single again. What happened?
Something that constantly happens in relationships: you check yourself and then decide that it does not fit.
Was it a long relationship?
Are almost two years long? The separation was very peaceful. We looked each other in the eye and realized that we are both unable to meet each other's needs. Should not we separate better? Then hit! It was a joint decision.
Are you a relationship person?
Yes, but I cherish my relationships in my own way. I keep hearing that it is a bit difficult to keep in touch with me. Why? I have a terrible relationship with my phone. When it rings, I do not feel automatically called to respond. Many people take this very personally. Recently, I even had to listen to the accusation: "As much as you can not have to do anything. Even the Federal President goes to his phone, although he has a busy schedule. "For me it is like this: Sometimes I sit comfortably with a book in a corner and just do not think it necessary to answer the phone.
However, a relationship must also be maintained. Where is your mission?
My commitment begins with the greatest gift one can ever give to another human being: to let him go and to give him space and not immediately to fulfill the next expectation. In my opinion, in a really good partnership, it is not necessary that you constantly have to prove each other's love with attentions in order to keep the relationship going. You do not have to talk to each other constantly. Do you know which was the most beautiful conversation I ever had? I sat in the pouring rain on the terrace and howled and howled. A friend of mine came to sit next to me. A short time later he went back and returned with an umbrella. We sat on the bench and were silent. At some point he pushed the umbrella into my hand and left again. That was the best conversation! There were no annoying charges like, "I'm your best friend, you gotta tell me what's wrong with you." He just left my room.
Have you ever had a real heartache?
I used to suffer totally from it!
What's the craziest thing you've ever done for love?
In the past I used to make a monkey in love. For example, after a relationship, I did not want to believe that it was over, I drove to the bus station every day to intercept it, just to get a new rebuff. I was so busy proving her how much I love her. I was firmly convinced that she still loves me, but just does not know it yet. Something like that would not happen to me today, or maybe it would? (Laughs)
Do you dream of a family with a house in the countryside?
No, I am currently incredibly happy with my life as it is right now.
Your life motto?
Never drink from the cocoa you are being pulled through.
Thank you for the interview!
The interview was conducted by Benjamin Cibach for Stars & Stories
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