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- When is it worth fighting? When is it better to go
- Stay or go? He does not want a child
- New in love
- Everyday life kills love
- He cheated on me
When is it worth fighting? When is it better to go
In your partnership, the question is: stay or go? If it is in the relationship, you can of course just pack your bags. Or fight for love. If both have this goal, that's pretty fulfilling.
Singer Judith Holofernes once said the wonderful sentence: "I want a man with whom I feel better than without it, otherwise I would not need one." That sounds awesome. Simple. And yet it does not make happy relationships easier. Because sometimes you just fight with one or the other offense. Or suddenly in the chaos of feeling - because you have fallen in love with another man. There are just a lot of tests that sometimes make you doubt whether one should really stick to a partnership. Stay or go? But there are also a thousand reasons to do it: if it is characterized by trust, by respect. Of common goals. Because you only become the best version of yourself with this partner - and grow beyond yourself. It's worth fighting for.
Stay or go? He does not want a child
You love him - but he does not want his own family. Couple therapist Berit Brockhausen, author of "Territories, Territory Battles in Love": "Ask yourself how important a baby is to you and how much time you have to find out if he will change his mind." Because when you want to have a baby it is fatal to wait and hope. Take your wish seriously - and draw the consequences. Otherwise you will regret it.
New in love
Let's be honest: Did you really lose your heart to another person or is it just a crush on a fresh-loving-feeling? In the attention that "the new one" gives you? And with whom do you want to grow old? Is that the partner, you should stay. But to say clearly what is missing in the relationship.
Everyday life kills love
... and the good thing is: you can change that. Instead of falling asleep in the evenings on the sofa, you simply become creative yourself - and surprise him with a spontaneous trip, for example. For the Bespaßungsprogramm both are responsible!
He cheated on me
Stay or go? The first reaction is certain: disconnect. But then this other feeling comes up. That shows you all the nice moments you had with each other. And still wanted to have. Brockhausen: "It pays to stay, even if the partner wants to fight for the relationship." But: That means a lot of work. Because you have to learn to trust him again.
