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- ... and bring us closer to our partner
- 1. In what moments do you feel closest to me?
- 2. What do you want more from me?
- 3. Am I still liking you?
- 4. Do you sometimes feel like missing something?
- 5. When are we better as a whole than alone?
- 6. Do we spend enough time together - or even too much?
- 7. How do you see us and our lives in 5, 10 and 15 years?
... and bring us closer to our partner
Sometimes one understands oneself without words. That's wonderful! But equally important are conversations that strengthen and grow our love. And give us a very deep feeling of happiness.
There are a few questions that will strengthen love, make it a little bigger, more gorgeous and more beautiful. Because they go to the prison - but do not want to name the relationship but to enrich it. Without words, this warm, constant exhilaration "you and me forever" is rare.
But one does not use every day the chance to find out whether the partner or one is (still) completely happy . Often one of the everyday stress prevents it. Sometimes you find the time for two too beautiful to discuss such important things. Sometimes you find the time for two too annoying to discuss such important. And now and then you just do not have the guts to hear the answers.
But is nonsense. Because even if an honest statement of the loved one should be hard to digest for a short time: The quintessence usually makes for a small course change that only makes the relationship good. Because you are a little bit more careful with each other again, with this precious luck. So just pop them out - these seven questions that strengthen love :
1. In which moments do you feel closest to me?
This so positively charged entry question is perfect for approaching. After all, love is made up of thousands of teeny-tiny moments that intensify cohesion. From the rousing zest of life that radiates the other (eg in the joint hike), to the feeling of happiness that one feels when the other instinctively finds the right words to cheer you up.
If you know these small, big scenarios that make your partner's heart beat a little faster, you can often put them into everyday life - and make for an extra dose of euphoria.
2. What do you want more from me?
Now it's a bit more to the point. We really love some traits of the partner - but unfortunately he is skimping on it. Maybe he does not realize how great we are about his penchant for wordplay. And we do not suspect that he appreciates our serenity and confidence . Maybe sometimes just the everyday life comes in between - and hey, we rarely philosophize until late into the night with him about life. Or we're not so interested in his latest achievement in the record collection. Instead, we say goodbye at 9.30 pm with a murmured "must go to bed" - without exchanging excessive affection. If this happens frequently, the partnership gradually drifts off into the loveless. Good, then, if we make us aware of longings.
3. Am I still liking you?
Okay, this question might sound superficial, but attraction is important in the partnership. It's not even about a superduper figure, but maybe we sometimes want each other from the other ... a slightly different look. Maybe he thinks we should not always cover up our freckles, which he loves so much. And we secretly wish that instead of the awesome heavy metal T-shirt that he has had since graduation, he overshadows his casual suit jacket from time to time.
Occasionally, in the course of the partnership, you lose some of your sense of what the other person likes. Yeah, and eventually you tend to let yourself go for a while. But luckily you can change that.
4. Do you sometimes feel like missing something?
Oha, starting this dialogue can cost quite a bit of overcoming. Does it help to show if you are such a stumbling block to the other person? Maybe the partner has always flirted with a circumnavigation - but left out of consideration for the relationship. Or you yourself would like to work abroad - and do not do it for him. And if there is not this one, big dream that now dusted in the castle, you may have neglected small, beloved rituals for the partner, because the other way is ticking. It may be that these sacrificed wishes play no role in the relationship. But it may also be that they are getting bigger in secret. And someday you get mad at the partner Brand: "Without you I would have been ...". The good: If you talk about it at the beginning of your frustration, you will certainly find a way to integrate such wishes into the relationship. And maybe even start a "fresh love revival", because these actions can really spur the partnership.
5. When are we better as a whole than alone?
And ... Tusch! This question is something like the Black Forest cake among the relationship issues that strengthen love . At least she is similarly happy. Because it makes you realize again how well you complement each other. What own deficits you have, the other ironed out by his strengths. And vice versa. Teamwork carries happiness . Because this makes us the best version of ourselves - because we carry each other along, outgrow us. And trust us as a couple things that we would never dare alone - no matter whether it is raising children or to renovate the house in the countryside.
6. Do we spend enough time together - or even too much?
Sometimes one has the feeling of spending more time with colleagues than with one's partner. To exchange only phrases with him between supper and bedtime - instead of listening to each other properly, when everyone tells of his day. Not to mention really experiencing something new and exciting. Or you realize: Hey, we only have a double pack - you want more freedom. Talking about it helps to keep the love in balance before the other becomes dissatisfied and transfers it to other areas of the relationship. Often people like to naggelt then to yourself - which one can annoy the other pretty.
7. How do you see us and our lives in 5, 10 and 15 years?
We know our partner inside out, including plans for the future. At least we think - and are often damn wrong. It is therefore good to get "up to date". Only if you have the same goals, you can finally work to reach them. Practical: making plans gives the relationship depth, welds together. And ensures a lot of anticipation - of course, the classic: the cuddly common children who play hide in the garden. On your own four walls in the middle of the trendy neighborhood. Or the big dog, both of whom later want to have - without having previously known of the four-legged dream of the other.
