What really matters in the end!

2013

Report: What is really important in life

We have a very special holiday reading for you: Use your free time away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life to seriously think about your life - so that the eternal "Hätte, wenn, wenn" -Kopfkino finally has a break in transmission.

For eight years, the Australian Bronnie Ware accompanied as a palliative care nurse dying.

What really matters in the end!
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She has written a book about her recollections of her life, which stormed the bestseller lists internationally. In many cases she has experienced that at the end of life there is no more ifs and buts and suddenly they realize what really matters. Bronnie Ware is convinced: The following five appeals will change your life from the ground up!

1 Stay true to yourself!

The most frequently cited failure in life, according to Bronnie Ware, is "not having the courage to live life as one would like". So it regretted z. For example, Grace, who is over 80, endured an unhappy marriage. Your plea on the deathbed: Be more courageous and selfish, say no more often - and do not live for someone else!

Does your job really make you happy? Does it fulfill your relationship? Are you sincere to your fellow men? If you hesitate even for a single question, you should rethink the current state! Think long term, think about how you want to look back on your life in the end, and try not to let short-term discomforts such as dismissal or housing abandonment slow you down in developing your vision.

Does your life make you happy?

Often, with far-reaching decisions, we are hindered by the fear of disappointing others and receiving accusations. "You have to learn not to accept these allegations, " Bronnie Ware explains, quoting Buddha's question: "If someone gives you a gift and you decide you do not, who will that gift be?"

Treat accusations as well as unwanted gifts: do not accept, but reject. So you free yourself from the shackles that you impose yourself. Anyone who has panic about change, should meditate shortly before this consideration, z. For example, concentrate on breathing for five minutes. "It helps to clear the mind - of negative thinking and beliefs that are often talked about for a lifetime, " explains the author.

2 Dedicate your life not to work, but to life!

You may think so, but in fact Bronnie Ware never met a dying person who would have wished to have worked more. On the contrary - almost all had the feeling of having run away from life. Like John, who retarded his retirement forever, although his wife begged him to enjoy a nice evening together.

It was not until 15 years later that he agreed, but John's wife suddenly died three months before retiring. "I was always terrified of losing my job status, " John said, admitting that he did not like his job so much, just the role he played in his environment.

Happiness is not dependent on things

"It's only now that I'm dying that I know that in life you've achieved more than enough to be a good person. Why do we like to measure ourselves with material things? "Do not make your happiness dependent on things that will hopefully arrive someday.

Concentrate on the moment and find the meaning in your work - whether you are a nurse or a saleswoman. It only depends on your perception and satisfaction that you feel. And finally do what you love, then it does not feel like work.

3 Have the courage to express your feelings!

How would you feel if, in the end, you discover that your own family does not know you properly? Amazingly, many of Bronnie Ware's patients complained of this condition. He who reveals his feelings automatically becomes vulnerable. That's why we're afraid to be open and honest - and build a wall around us.

The Australian is convinced: If you want to be happy, this wall must go! Take the example of young children who do not yet know how to suppress feelings, tell someone straight out that they love him, cry when they are sad, and vent their grief so that they can be happy again afterwards,

Of fears and love

From now on try to express your feelings immediately - and not only when it is already too late. Courage for doing so is the words of a dying woman: "Tell people that you love them. Tell them that you appreciate them. If they do not like your honesty or react differently than you had hoped, it does not matter. The important thing is that you told them. "

The author also trusts that honesty is liberating and always rewarded: "And if only in the form of self-respect or as a life without feelings of guilt, as the end of harmful relationships or in a way that we did not suspect before."

4 Keep in touch with your friends

The dying Elizabeth put it in a nutshell: "The people who accept you as you are, and you know very well, are in the end more valuable than anything else." Your appeal: Show your friends as often as possible, how much you appreciate them and do not be afraid to be vulnerable.

For 15 years, the 55-year-old was heavily dependent on alcohol and thus lost friends, their family and ultimately their health. Shortly before her death, she approached all the people she once cared for. She made peace and recognized the value of her family and her friends. As a result, she could again love in her life.

Maintain true friendship

According to Bronnie Ware, you recognize a good friendship that you are accepted as you are, and conversely, the other do not want to change. Always address problems immediately and do not blame your girlfriend, just describe how you feel. If you're offended and hurtful, maybe it's time to let you go.

Do not rely on people who can not help you in life. And do not expect a friend to give you everything. Every friendship has a lot of positives, but also something negative. Enjoy that you can have fun with one, celebrate the nights, pour out another's heart without convicting them, and share your favorite hobby with a third.

Unconditional love

Treat your closest friends with unconditional love and trust that good will be returned to you. Find out who is good for you and jump over your shadow: forgiveness is the key to deep satisfaction!

5 Treat yourself more joy!

"Many people realize only at the end of their lives, that one can consciously decide for luck, " says Bronnie Ware and recommends: "Imitate that you are happy for half an hour. Do not say anything negative, do not look angry, but smile, but that changes your feelings! "

Sometimes you have to force yourself to happiness: Who perceives himself as a lucky guy, lives automatically on the sunny side of life. "You just have to allow yourself, " says the author. Even Cath, who was dying despite her only 51 years, felt pure gratitude. "It's so easy to want more from life, but since we'll never get it all, it's important that we appreciate what we have."

Allow luck

Recognize the gifts in your life. Say every evening in front of the mirror Thank you for what has happened to you today. Happiness is based on personal choice and not on the circumstances. The best example is Lenny, who had to go through much of his life: At 14, he became a full orphan, later he lost only three of his four children and then his wife. She was only 40 years old.

Nevertheless, he said that he had a good life: "I have got to know love and it has not become one less day. Do not worry about trifles. Remember, love is always present! "Lenny's wise realization: Happy life wants one as much as one wants one's happy life. It does not require a drastic change - just the perception.

Realize your heart's wishes

And the courage to realize your heart's desires. From her experience as a nurse, Bronnie Ware is certain: "In the end, what other people think of you or what you have achieved materially will not matter to you at all. It only matters how lucky you were to give the people you love and how much time you spend with things that were dear to your heart! "