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- Almost everyone is doing it. But only very few use the dialogue with themselves quite self-confidently. What a shame ...
- Self-talk helps to solve problems
- Those who express their thoughts, reduce stress
Almost everyone is doing it. But only very few use the dialogue with themselves quite self-confidently. What a shame ...
Who leads self-talk is a genius! For self-talk is doing us really well, that's what numerous studies have shown. We'll tell you how to use soliloquy even for you.
"Interesting soliloquy requires a wise partner." HG Wells
"You can not win like that, Haasi, it can not be done like that, you do not, you're too weak, too many mistakes, you're a complete idiot, I'm not upset ... !!!" During a game break at the 2007 Australian Open, world-class tennis player Tommy Haas talked aloud to himself. The microphones on the edge of the field picked up on him every sentence. To this day, Thomas Haas's soliloquy can be heard and seen on You-Tube. A real stroke of luck, because most people would never get caught in soliloquy.
Self-talk helps to solve problems
Because while this tendency is still considered normal and cute in children, we adults thus have an image problem.
People who talk to themselves quickly leave others with the impression that they have loosened a screw. But the opposite is the case.
The American psychologist Dolores Albarracin considers soliloquy one of the most important tools for controlling one's own behavior. So their subjects had to solve various tricky tasks. One group was specifically invited to have a soliloquy; the other was strictly forbidden. The result: those who commented on their actions solved the tasks much more successfully than the group, which was prevented from soliloquy.
"It has been proven that feelings and thoughts find an outlet for soliloquy, " says Albarracin. And that releases action energies. Whether it is fear or excitement, joy or grief, frustration or anger - talking to yourself reduces stress, reduces aggression and helps to solve problems.
Even Thomas Haas' "self-insulting" with subsequent self-encouragement, "Go on now! You win the match! Fights!", Did not miss its effect: He caught up the residue and came out of the game as the winner.
Those who express their thoughts, reduce stress
No matter how it affects others - talking to yourself is completely normal.
Dirk Wedekind from the Department of Psychiatry and Psychotherapy at the University of Göttingen also sees it as a method of thinking aloud. "At the same time, self-talk confirms us humans in what we know inside, " he says. "When we're in a decision dilemma, dialogue with ourselves often leads us to get good results, it promotes concentration and boosts performance."
Especially in the workplace, self-talk is an effective way against time pressure and feeling overwhelmed, says Professor Hans-Dieter Hermann from the German University for Prevention and Health Management (DHfPG).
Psychologists therefore recommend that they regularly have a "soliloquy with the soul". Especially people who have problems with controlling their impulses or clearly structuring their thoughts should use this form of thinking.
And we are all in good company. Because: secretly do it already 96 percent of all women and men.
