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- Why we rarely feel as old as we are
- The many freedoms scare us
- We are grown-up, as we believe ourselves
- Being childlike is a way of life
Why we rarely feel as old as we are
Cartoons, cuddly toy trailers, radio plays are currently very trendy - in people who are already over 20 or even 30. Why it is like that. Which is why we are less and less aware of where we are in life.
We know that you need to separate colored laundry from white laundry. Do not just open our bills, but pay them sometime and have now exchanged the empty beer crates on our balcony for potted plants . But who would say that he was an adult? So complete, with all the trimmings? Of course, childhood is already behind us. But still, we often doubt if we'll ever reach the next stage and really grow up . Because we neither feel or look the way we originally expected from our adult self. After all, instead of wearing a business costume or a designer twin set, we prefer to wear shredded jeans and a kitten shirt . And are totally addicted to us in animation strips such as the current "Lego Movie" or in any youth film novels (this Josh Hutcherson is also cute!) To amuse. Not least because of the Ü30 fans, these films in the cinema charts are at the top. But other children's stuff is announced: "The three ???" - live concerts are booming and even fashion companies such as Fendi staff their noble handbags lately with cuddly fur monster followers. "With this non-adult trend, we combine positives such as lightness, security and protection, " explains psychologist Grit Hoffmann (www.psychotherapie-hoffmann.de) this phenomenon.
The many freedoms scare us
Well, our look and our preferences are no longer indicative in the search for the personal "maturity degree". Our age is just as little. Although the development of the brain is already completed at the beginning of 20, our feeling of being independent lags behind quite a bit. Since today, even after our 30th birthday, we often have not taken care of a building savings contract or are stuck in a yes-no-maybe relationship. Children? Marry? Oh, there will be time later! Why we see it so easy? Because our society is getting older and older. And if one's parents are still in good health even in old age, that gives us the feeling of being able to remain a child longer. Unlike the generations before us, we also have much more scope to free our lives. Unfortunately, this also ensures that we are more and more often scared of our independence and the adult . What if we leave our parents on the bag forever? Or we never learn to do our tax declaration ourselves? "To ask such questions is also a form of adulthood, for when we reflect that in some ways we could be much more mature, that's the first step towards more ownership, " said the expert.
We are grown-up, as we believe ourselves
And actually: Actually, we are already in the middle of adult mode. Show small, everyday aha moments : crazy, we are already pretty sensible! And our sense of responsibility is stronger than we thought. For example, when we are worriedly watching over the phone because mom and dad are traveling through Thailand and we are panicking for a "goodbye" call. But even if we instead of new pumps voluntarily set a knife set, because we actually need much more urgent. And we usually only notice how strong we really are when the going gets tough and we suddenly have to take responsibility. Because the parents get sick. Or our partner loses his job and suddenly we have to push double shifts. Then we are grateful that life has given us a lot of seriousness and strength.
Being childlike is a way of life
And if we are honest, we do not have to decide. We can stand on our own legs and still dangle small Talismänner on our handbags. "Anyone who simply does what he wants without criticizing them as a teacher is showing strength, " confirms Grit Hoffman.
Being childish can be quite mature. As long as it's good for us. Because even if the candles on the birthday cake and the wrinkles around the eyes are more and more, we are fortunately always in the end always one: we ourselves.
