Do you like to leave your baby alone with the father? "Well, sure, " said every mother shot like a gun. After all, it is the dad of the child who cares for the baby with the same amount of love and patience as the mother. But deep inside, almost every mother has a little voice that whispers, "Are you sure?" Also with you?
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The study "Policies for the division of labor and family responsibilities" by the Allensbach Institute for Demoscopy has now found that around 11 percent of all women interviewed did not allow their father to take parental leave because they did not want to leave him alone with the child. Reason for this: They thought that the child was not well enough cared for by the father. Incredible? No, reality!
Recently on a children's birthday party : One of my friends watches her boyfriend playing with the child together. After a few minutes, she casually says, "It looks funny when he has the kid in his arms."
Even in times of equal rights many mothers insist on their prerogative of the child. For in addition to aspects such as the merit in each job plays for many mothers, the idea that the child was not well off the father, a crucial role for which parent goes on parental leave.
But the maternal over-care can go much further: One of my friends at some point told me that she actually found it quite good to breastfeed, because that would strengthen the bond between her and the child. When I asked how that was for the daddy, she just looked puzzled.
Granting the father a similar responsibility and a share of the child, many mothers is incredibly difficult. What many do not consider: Even the partner gets it in case of doubt and feels bad. Experienced midwives therefore always try to involve the father as well as the mother. Because what many mothers can not - namely to deliver the child sometimes - is important in the first time to relax.
But it also works differently: a few weeks ago, when I accompanied a friend and her husband to the playground, the father was raging so wildly with the child that I was a little unsure. When I asked my friend if she was not scared, she just said, "He's the dad, he knows what he's doing and I have to let him do it."
Dear Mothers: Do your partners and the many dads out there a favor and trust them. Because even insecure fathers grow with their tasks. And you can finally relax a bit again or realize your job.
