Internet etiquette
The new rules for Facebook and Co. we tell you what you better not post, which cell phone ringtone is always and what you should pay attention to e-mails.
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- That's okay on Facebook
- Do not snoop before the first date
- You do not have to like everything on Facebook!
- First think, then post on Facebook
- Dose smileys and hearts
- Tips against typing in e-mails
- Answer all questions in emails immediately
- Sleep over it again
- No blind copies in emails
- No emoticons in job emails
- Pay attention to your surroundings when making a call
- Headphones instead of boxes while listening to music
Facebook and Co.
Friendships are collected on Facebook like stamps: The average user has 130 friends - far more than in real life. If someone decorates with 1, 000 friends, he is not the most popular, but rather one who can never say "no" and may also be friends with his baker and his cat. And even flirting has not necessarily become uncomplicated through Facebook.
That's okay on Facebook
It's perfectly okay to reject requests with the "do not now" button - especially when you come from the boss, colleague, ex-boyfriend or uncle. After all, they do not have to know where to go on a Saturday night party. And also accept if your friend request is denied.
We know that it's incredibly fun to spy on the ex-girlfriend's new flame or your own childhood sweetheart. With 20 million users in Germany alone, the hit rate is also quite high!
Do not sniff before the first date
But do not tease the snooping before the first date. Because you could get a completely false impression: US psychologists found out that types in networks exaggerate their masculinity - with a lot of beer and blondes in the arm. An embarrassing Ballermann photo has certainly prevented one or the other relationship. After a successful evening you may of course throw a curious look on his side - but please do not send the invitation afterwards!
Delete blamable links from friends via "Remove Marker"! Pictures that show you unfavorably, drunk or in a tight bikini will at least no longer appear on your profile.
It's over!
Closing with a mouse click is not possible - after all, the person affected will at worst find out about a third user. Do not change your relationship status until you talk to the person. This is especially true for people who say they are "in a relationship with xy". Because who changes his status in "Single", makes his ex automatically to the "single" on Facebook!
Nobody is asking you to say thank you on your day for 100 birthday wishes. A status message the next day, in which you say "thank you" is enough.
You do not have to "like" everything on Facebook!
Even if it's so much fun to press the "Like" button - do not do it permanently and do not add your mustard to any post. Unless you want to be considered a follower or Facebook junkie.
Anyone posting ten times a day that he's so busy seems pretty unbelievable - and is ready for chat withdrawal.
First think, then post on Facebook
Restrain your urge to communicate and think about what you would write if every post cost a euro. Popular own goal: You sign up sick and post on Facebook your shopping trip. Even comments in which you are worried about your job or the boss, are taboo - companies like to check profiles of employees.
Avoid insults, gossip and gossip - the Internet stores everything for decades. "Am now two weeks on vacation" is a great tip for burglars and because of your complicity, the insurance will not pay a penny. Therefore always omit address and telephone number in networks.
Dose smileys and hearts
Identify ironic statements with a ;-) to prevent misunderstandings, but generally deal with hearts (3) and smileys dosed - if you're past puberty.
In the privacy settings, block your site for search engines like Google. Or do you want even the PC nerd from Sydney to know your relationship status? Quietly group your friends into groups - then you can block your wall, for example, for distant acquaintances.
Tips against typing in e-mails
Be brief: Studies have shown that many people only read the first seven lines of an e-mail. If it's a novel, excuse yourself right at the beginning - and do not expect the other to write back just as extensively.
Never tag mails with the "high priority" exclamation mark - the recipient should be able to decide for himself what he considers important.
CAPITAL LETTERS are out of place - or do you want to yell at the recipient? Lowercase letters signal contempt and laziness. "Where are you ???" is intrusive, as well as a statement with three or more exclamation points - the big exception: "Thank you !!!"
Answer all questions in emails immediately
In the job, always answer all questions in an e-mail - in the 24 hours after receipt. Edit messages from the boss as soon as possible. If you need longer, you should briefly confirm receipt of the transmitter. In private, you can handle it at your own discretion - but you risk trouble if you do not respond to a request for a week.
Send your mail only after you have thoroughly checked it for spelling and punctuation. You do not have to reply to an e-mail with an e-mail. But when it comes to changing media, it is only ever the more impersonal to more personal medium - so say a wedding invitation by mail rather than by e-mail.
Sleep on it again
You have annoyed about a girlfriend and want to hit immediately a nasty mail in the keys? Before firing a fulminating quick shot, save the text - for safety's sake, without a receiver - and sleep on it for one night. A written "You can see me" is much more hurtful than a sentence that has slipped out of affect for which you can immediately apologize.
Haste makes waste!
Do not ask the recipient to confirm the receipt of the mail with a mouse click. Remember that on average, every day, you get about 60 emails. Equally meaningless is an automatic acknowledgment of receipt ("autoresponder") - it just states that it has arrived, not whether it has already been read. If it's urgent, pick up the phone!
No blind copies in emails
Do not put anyone in the blind copy "bcc". This lets a third party participate in the correspondence without the actual recipient knowing. Exceptions are invitations via the mailing list to protect the privacy of the recipients. Conversely, in the case of circulars you receive, you never click on "Reply to All" - or did you want to read 50 foreign pledges?
No emoticons in job emails
With a ":-)" you can break the ice in a private e-mail, in a business correspondence emoticons are just as out of place as the informal salutation "Hi" or the farewell "MfG".
Smartphone and mobile phone
Never cancel appointments by text message - with a short call you signal that the other is worth more than a typed in five seconds: "Sorry, I can not do it!" Mobile calls in Germany at around 29 cents per minute is quite expensive, Therefore, there are always cheap foxes, which hang up after once and wait for the callback. If you are afraid of an expensive bill, send a text message!
NSZI: We all know that text messages need to be short and fast. But avoid adventurous shortcuts that nobody else understands except you - just for info!
Pay attention to your surroundings when making a call
Do not use your mobile phone in the cinema: A glowing device is just as bad as a ringing one! Bad places are also museums, libraries, public transport (especially phoning!) And more sophisticated restaurants. In casual places, you can place your device on the table, but with the display facing down. And if it rings unexpectedly? Better push away instead of answering and say "It's just bad" - with this vague info your opponent can not start anymore.
Men hate it when women play on their phone, especially when eating. Always tell your counterpart that the call is more important than a text message. If you ever have to send an urgent message, you should unobtrusively connect it with the way to the toilet.
Speaking instead of SMSn
It's nice if you have a SMS Flat. Nevertheless, most men (and many women!) Find the thumb-typed dialogue as annoying, cumbersome and expensive. So, if you want to date your latest conquest, grab the phone right away!
Clothes make people - ringtones too! The preset iPhone tone annoys just like the age-old Nokia-noodles. Try "Men are Pigs", "Je t'aime" by Serge Gainsbourg, Bushido raps or funny jokes. Or do you want to be labeled in public as a bitter single woman, porn actress, ghetto bride or Jamba Sparabo customer? US psychologists found that everyday sounds are less disturbing. So how about the analogue telephone or doorbell melody?
Headphones instead of boxes while listening to music
Of course we love that we can download the new Kooks album directly on our smartphone. Although nearly half of 14 to 30-year-olds listen to music over the phone, not everyone wants to share in their Kooks passion. So headphones on as soon as you go to the door!
Turn off the ringtone as quietly as possible in the job or in public areas so as not to bother others. Even better is the vibration mode. And please, the first step, if you buy a new phone - switch off key tones! The Dauergepiepse brings even deep relaxation on the palm.
By now, everyone is available everywhere - 98 percent of 25- to 34-year-olds own a cell phone or even a second Blackberry for the job. Nevertheless, it is legally stipulated that you do not have to be reachable on vacation. So switch off your mobile for two weeks!
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