I like myself! Never again dress crises, complexes and self-doubt: The seven most important rules on the way to the happy ending with ourselves.
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Each of us has such a girlfriend: one that is not perfect, but somehow beautiful because it shines from within . The umpteen quirks - she is always late, always wears peeling nail polish and can not cook at all - and yet you just have to love her. One that laughs too loud, and yet you can not help but laugh along . The three small rolls above the belt have nevertheless been the first to go out every time they go out. Who is so warm, friendly and warm that one fears, she gives so much that you can never give it back to her in life. Almost guaranteed, this friend is a rare species: a woman who loves herself.
This species is about as threatened with extinction as the red-bellied toad. Unfortunately, most women are incredibly critical, ungracious, even mean. They always only see what they do not have - instead of recognizing what makes them adorable. Why this is so, each has individual reasons. But for many, this self-criticism results from an unfavorable combination: parents who could criticize better than encourage, and high pressure from the outside, but especially from the inside.
And yet, there are a few who succeed in building their self-esteem and avoiding everything that comes down to us every day in terms of ideals, demands and insults. What do you do differently than the others?
If we want to learn to love ourselves, we must have the courage to stand up for ourselves. Only then will we give ourselves the opportunity we deserve.
Here are the seven main rules to build self-esteem :
1. Do not believe in the "stay as you are" lie!
To accept oneself does not mean that one should not work on oneself. Because some things that bother us - eg. For example, the inability to say no can and should be changed.
2. Surround yourself with people who like you!
Because they are the mirror you can really rely on. You are guaranteed to be more forgiving than yourself - because they know what they have about you. You have yet to learn that.
3. Listen to friends who question you!
Who we are at heart tells us his opinion openly. We need such buggers to get the most out of us.
4. Be honest with yourself!
Only when we stand by our feelings and longings, we also stand up for our needs. And our self-confidence will grow.
5. Give yourself time with you!
We often need leisure time with ourselves. Time in which we only do what we feel like doing. How should others enjoy our company if we can not do it ourselves?
6. Stop bickering with your body!
Do not always complain about small blemishes. They just make you special. And if something really bothers you, self-criticism only brings something when actions follow.
7. Trust yourself!
Just waiting for fate to fulfill our desires has never worked. Brave new adventures, trust yourself to something. Every little success will make you proud and strong.
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