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- "I do not care
- What is resilience exactly?
- Does that mean whether someone is emotionally robust or not is pure luck?
- And how do you manage that?
- Why is resilience important?
- And that worked?
- What can people, who do not know how to go on, look after this family?
- What are the specific qualities of standing males?
- That sounds good, but in practice it is often difficult to keep this attitude.
- Read on
"I do not care"
No matter how many mishaps or crises come to him, Donald Duck keeps getting up. He has what everyone wants: resilience. The term derives from the Latin word resilire, translated to spring back, to bounce off. What is actually behind it, knows science journalist Christina Berndt (44) from Munich.
What is resilience exactly?
Christina Berndt: Resilience is the inner resilience that helps us master difficult life situations. It gives us self-assurance and the power to continue to look ahead even in crisis . Some people have inherited them, others need to work harder to be resilient.
Does that mean whether someone is emotionally robust or not is pure luck?
There are genetic requirements. But education also plays a big role. Foundations of mental resilience are laid in early childhood. I myself have two children, ages three and six, and often ask myself, how do I make them strong?
And how do you manage that?
I do not keep any stress off your body. You should z. For example, you can handle a conflict in the sandbox yourself.
Why is resilience important?
Because it is a new, positive approach. For a long time psychologists have been concerned only with why people in life can not cope. Resilience explores how a life can succeed fundamentally well.
There are phases in which one crisis follows the next. How does the resistance help us?
Problems, sometimes serious, inevitably come to every person. For example, a mother lost her son in the hospital 16 years ago due to a tragic mishap. Today she can laugh again. Because at the worst low point, when she was crying, she decided with her family: We want to be happy again .
And that worked?
The family cohesion was the decisive salvation here. Together, they only perceived the beautiful things in life. They opened a surf shop on Fuerteventura, painted, even designed their own fashion collection.
What can people, who do not know how to go on, look after this family?
That the end of a crisis also has something to do with the will to ask yourself "What's good for me?" Hatred and grief will not bring anyone on forever. It is important to reconcile with destiny.
What are the specific qualities of standing males?
The key to strength is bonding. Protection against slipping is provided by people who are there for you in difficult situations. It also helps if you do not cling to your habits, but are open to change. And finally, optimism and a bit of humor help to see light on the horizon after a crisis.
That sounds good, but in practice it is often difficult to keep this attitude.
Yes, that's a process. Start with small steps. What do you admire about others? Maybe the cooking skills or the ability to talk to people? Dare it too! Swallowing and saying "I can not do that" is going in the wrong direction. If you face challenges, you build up your strengths again.
Read on
Christina Berndt worked with psychologists for the guidebook "Resilience - The Secret of Psychic Resistance". It reveals causes and describes ways to a stronger character. German paperback publishing house, 14, 90 Euro
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